It’s nearly been a decade since Mira Rajput married Bollywood star Shahid Kapoor. But even after all these years, she hasn’t forgotten how different her life looked back then — especially when most of her friends were still studying or travelling the world.
In a recent chat on the YouTube channel Moment of Silence with Naina Bhan and Sakshi Shivdasani, Mira opened up about how lonely and overwhelming it felt to get married at just 20 years old.
‘We did evolve separately’
When asked how her friendships changed after getting married, Mira was honest about the emotional distance that grew between her and her close friends. “I think we (Mira and her friends) did evolve separately. I’d like to admit that it was quite isolating because we were just in different phases of life at that time. You get to different phases in life, and you look at your friends… I wish I could do what she’s doing.”
‘I couldn’t speak to them as often’
Mira admitted that she lost touch with friends for a while after marriage, not because she didn’t care, but because her life had suddenly become a whirlwind of responsibilities. “For the longest time, it was me thinking, ‘Oh, my friend has gone for her master’s, or they’re travelling or like there’s a gap year. You know, life is great. You move cities, you have a wonderful family, kids, all of that… I even remember, I couldn’t speak to them as often as I used to. They were like, ‘What has happened? Just because you’ve moved and gotten married doesn’t mean you forget us.’ I was like, ‘Guys, genuinely, I’m occupied and caught up and stuff.’ I don’t think they understood it then, but fortunately, the friendship kind of sustained. They understand it now because they’re in a similar phase.”

Mira and Shahid’s arrange marriage
Mira and Shahid’s wedding was arranged by their families. Shahid was 34 at the time, and Mira was just 20. The couple welcomed their first child, Misha, in 2016, just a year after getting married. Their son, Zain, was born in 2018.